Dedicated to the memory of Doreen Duley

In loving memory of Doreen Ellen Duley who passed away peacefully into God’s care on Sunday 28th April 2019.

Doreen arrived into the World, on 28th February 1940 in Battersea, London, the 4th of 8 children born to her parents Ellen and Charles Smith. She was the second of 4 daughters and had four brothers. Like so many wartime babies her childhood was far from privileged, but she always spoke of her early years growing up in Stanley Grove with great pride and affection. The devotion to family values and generosity of spirit formed in those early days were to last throughout her life.

Educated at Lavender Hill School, her first job was with the Air Ministry in Holborn, central London. At the age of 16 a chance meeting, while out with friend Zena, with two young men Joe and David, at Battersea Park fun-fair led to lasting relationships and marriage for both couples. Doreen and Joe married at St Philip Church, Battersea on 25th July 1959. They moved to Trinity Road, Wandsworth where they had 4 boys; David, Antony, Peter and Michael and later to Carshalton Beeches, Surrey where their 5th son Paul was born. Later Doreen and Joe moved to Stanford-Le-Hope, Essex but their marriage hit troubled times and they were divorced in 1987.

Happiness was, however, never far away where Doreen was concerned and she met Ray Duley in 1989 via a mutual friend, fell hopelessly in love, and the pair were married on her father’s birthdate; 28th November 1996 at the Registry Office, Grays, Essex surrounded by friends and family. 

Doreen and Ray moved to Orsett Heath where she lived for the rest of her life. The couple shared many interests including a passion for spiritual healing for which they set up a sanctuary providing help and guidance for people experiencing difficult times, many of whom have remained firm friends ever since. Of the many special friendships, they enjoyed over the years, that between Ray and Joe, which remains to this day, was a source of great happiness to Doreen. 

Doreen was a lifelong and hugely devoted fan of “The King of Rock ‘n Roll” Elvis Presley, his music was a constant companion to her. She was a staunch advocate for animal welfare, especially of cats and dogs, numerous of which were doted upon as treasured pets, but most especially of German Shepherds. But her real passion was family. At the time of her passing, in addition to her sons, she was proud to boast of 12 grandchildren, 2 great-grandchildren 3 step grandchildren and 5 step great-grandchildren. Nobody visiting the home of Doreen and Ray would be in any doubt about the importance of their families since the walls and every conceivable surface is adorned with photographs of happy times spent with them.

Ray requests no flowers but would appreciate any donation to the Battersea Dogs and Cats Home charity.

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Thanks to all that have left thoughts and memories on here and everyone who was able to be with us yesterday, there for Mum. Your kind words mean a lot and Mum would be happy to know she is so loved by so many x
David
29th May 2019
As Mum’s first child I'd like to share some memories of a few firsts in my life. My first trip to the cinema, or the pictures as it was back then, was with Mum and it was to see the Beatles film "A Hard Day’s Night." I’d be four or five. It was a big exciting adventure for me but I hadn’t quite worked out that what I was watching wasn’t real life. I was distraught at the scene where John makes out he’s gone down the plughole with the bathwater and I thought he had actually drowned. Mum had to gently explain it was only a story and not to worry there would be plenty more Beatles songs to come. She wasn’t wrong there! My first meal out in a proper restaurant was with Mum and Dad on my 13th birthday, something which became a bit of a tradition as each of us reached that age. I remember I had prawn cocktail to start and was allowed a glass of wine with my steak which made me feel very grown up indeed. A very happy birthday. My first holiday abroad was a school trip to Paris for a week. It had looked at one time that we might not have been able to afford for me to go but Mum was absolutely determined I should, so she took a part time job specifically to pay for the trip. Quite how she found the time and energy I do not know. After I passed my driving test my first long drive was to Manchester for a football match, a mid-week game with no trains back that night. I had no car, but no problem, Mum lent me hers, quite a leap of faith considering I was a new driver and had barely been on a motorway before. I don’t think the thought of saying no to me even entered her head. I remember so well the first time Mum saw my two boys, strapping lads now but then tiny babies. She was so proud of me and them, as she was with every single addition to the family. I never had one conversation with Mum without at some point her asking how the boys were and what had they been up to. In later years she would normally tell me one or the other, often both had been texting her or putting something on facebook for her to see, she loved hearing from them. I’d tell you about my first big row with Mum but honestly we never had one. I think that says it all about the love she had for me and I for her. I’ll miss you Mum, more than I can say. xxx
David
29th May 2019
Its Comforting that at the most sadness of times we can all bring a smile to each others faces. Auntie loved a family get together. It was a loving service , you all did her proud. Sleep well Auntie , love always . Tracey xxx
Tracey
29th May 2019
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